The taboo no one wants to talk about: Planning for death while you’re still healthy

Death. The topic we dodge, avoid, and push to the far corners of our minds. It’s uncomfortable, unsettling, and often seen as a downer. But here’s the thing: planning for death while you’re still healthy isn’t morbid—it’s one of the most powerful, caring acts you can do for yourself and your loved ones.

Why? Because death is inevitable, no matter how much we wish otherwise. And ignoring it doesn’t make it go away. Instead, it often leaves families scrambling in chaos, burdened with tough decisions during emotional turmoil. By facing death head-on—while you have full clarity—you take control. You give your loved ones a roadmap, easing their pain and confusion when the time comes.

Why don’t we talk about it?

Culturally, death is taboo. We’re conditioned to see it as something to fear or deny. Talking about it feels like inviting bad luck or surrendering hope. But silence only deepens the stigma. It makes grief lonelier and planning harder.

What does planning for death actually look like?

It’s not about being pessimistic. It’s about practical, thoughtful preparation. This can mean:

• Writing a will to clearly state your wishes

• Creating advance directives or living wills for healthcare decisions

• Choosing a trusted person to manage your affairs

• Having open conversations with family about your values and desires

• Creating emotional handoffs

• Planning your memorial or digital legacy to reflect who you truly are

These actions give you peace of mind today and create a legacy that honors your life.

A checklist of what to do before you die.

The benefits extend beyond you.

When you plan ahead, you reduce financial stress and legal confusion for your family. You give them permission to grieve without added guilt or conflict. And you spark important conversations that bring families closer.

So, how do you start?

Start small. Maybe begin by jotting down your values and wishes privately. Then share bits with trusted loved ones. Find resources that simplify the legal steps.

Remember, this is a process, not a one-time event.

Planning for death while you’re still healthy is the ultimate act of self-care. It’s courageous. It’s compassionate. And it’s a gift—one that turns the inevitable into something meaningful.

If you’re ready to break the taboo and take control of your legacy, start the conversation today. Your future self—and your family—will thank you.